“It’s okay, my mate will be there so you won’t be the only black lad.”
She says it with a smile. If I’m honest, I was more surprised she has another black friend, but I brush off a questionable joke with a shake of the head and accept the invitation to my first Championship away day – Brentford hosting Blackburn Rovers.
Daisy lives in London but is a die-hard Rovers fan, tattoo of the badge and all. Blackburn are based in Lancashire, and with only five London teams in England’s 2nd tier, there are only so many games she can go and watch in the capital, and this was one of them.
I said no initially for three reasons. Firstly, it’s Blackburn; couldn’t name a player if you put a gun to my head. A team I have no ties to in any way, and I don’t think I’ve ever watched them play on TV before. Secondly, its Blackburn… I’ve never seen or heard about any trouble from them, but still… Thirdly, I don’t succumb to peer pressure. Except this time, I did.
When we arrived, the atmosphere was already quite hostile, and winding up the Brentford fans seemed to be the main item on the agenda for the away contingent.
Adam Armstrong gave Rovers the lead against the run of play after 10 minutes and added his third in as many games from the penalty spot shortly after the restart to put Rovers in control in west London.
But a stunning 25-yard volley from Ollie Watkins reduced the deficit for the hosts in the 62nd minute, before Said Benrahma tucked away a spot-kick of his own to earn the home team a deserved share of the spoils.
I was pleased to see a good game with lots of goals, and after calling the Blackburn players by their first names all game, I felt obliged to clap them off as if I too was a Riversider.
As for Griffin Park itself, no seating arrangement like at the Emirates or the occasional snoozefest once the game loses its intensity. This was constant, and my voice really couldn’t hack it, with more shouting, screaming and swearing than I’d ever done.
The terrace we were on was directly behind Brentford keeper for the second half, and we did not give him a moment’s peace. I also used this opportunity to practise my football chants. “It’s all gone quiet over there” at 2-0 up was started by me.
The home fans weren’t just letting this happen, of course, and were doing their best to quieten us down. After Benrhama had equalised, a local lad ran the length of the pitch from the stands to come to the away end to give us a piece of his mind.
I felt at home, one of the lads. I got laughs out of people with my slightly odd (and if you ask me effective) but imaginative way of trying to get into the Brentford players heads. “He doesn’t want it” “Let them come and get it”.
With the match done, it was time for a drink. I lost my friends in the wave of supporters flooding out but, nonetheless, I found the pub they had headed to and caught up with them there.
Man of the match – Ollie Watkins: A constant thorn in Rovers’ side as he scrapped and fought for chances all game. After Brentford sold Neal Maupay to Brighton in the summer, Watkins was entrusted to play up top, coming in from the wing to be a fully-fledged striker.
The frontman bagged goal number 21 of the campaign in sensational style at Griffin Park and rightly changed the course of the game with his venomous second-half strike; probably his sole meaningful contribution but what a contribution…
Brentford’s Thomas Frank: “I’m annoyed we didn’t win but immensely proud of the boys for their attitude, the way they stayed together, kept going and worked hard to the end.
“In the end, Blackburn looked so tired and that is a huge credit to our team. We have big togetherness even after going behind in the first half when we really should have been in front.”
Blackburn’s Tony Mowbray: “For the majority of the game we managed them pretty well and we know what talented individuals they’ve got and how they can build pressure.
“We got to the point where the crowd were about to turn on them after a few misplaced passes and then a bit of magic from their centre forward changes things.”
Sometimes it’s a word of encouragement, sometimes it’s a listening ear, sometimes it’s knowing when to just leave someone alone. The role of a sports chaplain is one that requires a well-stocked quiver of different emotional responses, and more importantly, knowing when to utilise each one.
These are the men and women whose job it is to treat athletes as men and women, to ignore the stereotypes and stigmas associated with the wealthy sportsperson and treat them as they would any other human being.
Stuart Cashman is chaplain at Brentford Football Club, and it was the opportunity to delve into a sporting world of varying emotions, of highs and lows, that enticed him to get involved with Sports Chaplaincy UK, the organisation in charge of providing chaplains for sporting institutions.
“Football, and I suppose any sport, is a very intense little world of its own, which just consumes people’s lives,” he tells me over a drink at the Griffin pub, which lies in the shadow of Brentford’s Griffin Park stadium.
“Knowing there’d be people with needs, people asking questions about what life is about, footballers getting injured, careers being very transient — I thought this was a world where people could do with a listening ear, where hopefully I could contribute. I come from a local church in Brentford, so I thought it would be great to be involved with the club in some way”
“I learn about what sort of things people are struggling with, what their issues are, what’s important in their lives”
He combines his one day a week at the club with his full-time role as pastor of Immanuel Church Brentford, but Cashman does not consider his chaplaincy post an “intrusion on the day job.” In fact, the opposite is true.
“A lot of what I do is listening to people,” he says, “trying to help them navigate life and find the truth, and so [working with the club] is good for me because I learn about what sort of things people are struggling with, what their issues are, what’s important and not important in their lives.
“That keeps me sharp in how I help them to see something that I think is of even greater importance.”
Ear to the ground
Indeed, the word ‘listening’ is one that crops up countless times during our chat about Cashman’s role, his techniques, and his motivations. The job of a chaplain is to provide emotional support to all staff at the club, and his one day a week at Brentford’s Jersey Road training ground in nearby Osterley is a weekly carousel of conversation.
“I wander up to the training ground, and just talk to people. I chat to the first-team squad as they’re warming up before they go outside. I’ll sit on an exercise bike beside whoever’s on an exercise bike.
“I spend time in the treatment room, which will often have guys getting strapped up, or having a massage before going out. Obviously you have the more long-term injured players as well, so I just try to talk and listen to them, usually just asking how they are, how the family is, what they’ve been up to. Likewise with the physios and fitness staff.”
“I think players appreciate feeling like someone values them as a person”
It’s easy sometimes to reduce a football club in our minds to its mere playing and coaching staff. But this insight into Cashman’s weekly odyssey through the training complex shows how his role encompasses the entire club, from the lowliest employees to the loftiest.
“I chat to the people on the gate, I’ll wander round and see other people who are up there, the media staff, the ground staff — they’re the hardest ones to find sometimes because they’re off on mowers and things like that — the analysts, the logistics and welfare folks. Anything that’s got a pulse, I’ll try and come alongside and just talk to.
“I always stay out for lunch. That’s a good time to chat, over lunch. Players will have come in from training — coaching staff, medical staff, anyone and everyone. If you did a time and motion study on me, you’d think all this man does is wander around talking, eating a nice meal and going home again! Yet within that, there’s a certain amount of listening to people who want to talk.”
Therein lies the key to the work of a chaplain, and the reason why some 76 of the 92 football league clubs make use of their services. The reality is that there are footballers who want and need someone to open up to about their struggles or misgivings. Cashman has found their issues to be wide-ranging.
“Sometimes I’ll find out someone’s just been bereaved, or somebody’s had a cancer diagnosis within the backroom staff, and so I talk to those people, send them cards, send them texts and try and keep in touch with them.
“If they’re struggling with relationships, or if they are feeling frustrated, I’m a person they can talk to in confidence. I don’t work for the club as such, so I can be a sounding board. It’s those type of personal things which they feel they can’t talk to other people about. I think they appreciate feeling like someone values them as a person.”
Winds of change
There’s a distinct gloom lingering over Brentford’s Griffin Park on the dreary Monday on which I meet Cashman. A soft drizzle drifts down from the grey blanket of cloud, obscuring the stadium’s old floodlight pylons in a thin mist.
It’s just days since manager Dean Smith left the club to take up the manager’s post at Aston Villa. Cashman is saddened to see Smith depart, as it was the former Walsall coach who brought him to the club just over two years ago.
“He’s a great manager of people, and I will miss him,” Cashman admits. “I think he set a really positive tone at the club for how the players respond to people. Lots of people will miss him for that reason, let alone the results.”
“When I first started, Dean walked me around and introduced me to everyone, to all the backroom staff, then invited me in for a team meeting the following week to introduce myself to the players. Everyone knew I was there at Dean’s behest.”
It’s notable that the fondness he reserves for Smith is entirely based on the coach’s personality rather than the on-field success he brought to Brentford.
“He’s a fine man, a really nice guy. I remember the first day I went up there [to the training ground], he escorted me out of the office because it was my first time, and there was an injured pigeon on the ground.
“He went to try and rescue it and see if he could help it. I think you can tell a lot about a person by the way they deal with injured animals!”
While Smith’s departure leaves something of an emptiness at the club, Cashman does not foreseea downturn in the good feeling instilled there during his time as head coach.
“I think because we have such a strong ethos about what the club is trying to do, I don’t think it’s going to be hugely unsettling. Most of the players will have lived through managerial changes. Okay, he’s been there at Brentford for nearly three years, but many of those players will have had ups and downs before. I think they’ll just crack on.”
Griffin Park is about as English as a football stadium gets. Its four small stands are wedged between rows of terraced housing, its old and rusting floodlights stretch upwards into the west London sky. Walk through its environs, and you can almost see the ghostly figures of match-going fans, smell the pervading aroma of pies and burgers, hear the clip-clop of a police horse’s hooves.
But despite its very English home, Brentford is a club which has become increasingly multicultural in recent years. The club’s recruitment policy sees Europe scoured for the finest and most cost-effective talent.
Seven nationalities were represented in the Bees’ last league game against Leeds. Part of Cashman’s remit is to make foreign arrivals feel at home.
“I try and find out what they’re liking, what’s different, what they miss from home. Especially younger players, because a lot of the B team players are from overseas, and that’s hard when you’re a 17 year-old who’s just arrived from Finland or Iceland or Sweden.
“There’s a world of difference between someone like that, and someone like Henrik Dalsgaard arriving at 27 or 28.”
Does he feel a responsibility, or a pressure even, to help foreign players settle so they can produce their best? “Yes and no. The club does a pretty good job of getting them housing and stuff like that.
“There’s also a limit to what I can do, and I have to be realistic about that. I’m only in one day a week, but I’ll offer to meet up with people if they want to. There’s one or two players I’ve still failed to manage to do that with. I don’t feel a huge pressure in that sense.”
It’s an old adage that if a player is happy off the pitch, they’ll play well on it, but Cashman is wary of such assumptions. “It sort of works both ways. If you’re happy, you’ll play well, and if you’re playing well and results go well, generally you’re happy.
“That said, the first team usually has a very professional attitude, but I think it’s a little harder for the younger players because they’re still adjusting and they’re still trying to find out who they are in the football world.
“The days I go into the club when they’ve been on a winning streak, everybody’s upbeat. When things have gone badly, and the wheels start to fall off, things will change. It’ll be interesting to see what happens on Saturday in the first match post Dean Smith.”
“I’ve come to understand the difficulties in the life of a footballer”
The wide ranging cultural and ethnic make-up of Brentford’s current squad mean a vast array of religions and beliefs are represented. Does Cashman find it hard to set aside his own beliefs when offering advice and support to those of differing religions?
“Yes and no. In a way, I don’t see their beliefs as being any more different to my beliefs when compared to the secular players who officially don’t believe in any [religion]. While there are vast differences, I have more in common with the Muslim players because their beliefs are theistic at least.
“It’s early days in terms of that experience for me, actually. Whilst I want to be able to facilitate people living out their faith, there are bound to be conflicts somewhere that I’ll come across.”
A rewarding challenge
Cashman admits that he has learned a lot about the world of professional football since taking up the chaplaincy post, and finds the job to be a challenge which he relishes.
“I think I’ve come to understand the difficulties in the life of a footballer. It’s not just a great, fun life, really. Wherever you go, the struggles are still the same.
“We’re all trying to get on with other people, trying to recover from disappointments. A lot of it is about where do I find my identity. If my identity is being a footballer, one day that’s going to go, so who am I?
“As someone who believes that the gospel is true, it’s a constant challenge for me to help people start to think through what they believe and what they think in the world of football. It’s helpful for me to think through how I do that, and how this gospel actually impacts the footballing world, in ways that people can relate to.”
To many, the work of a club chaplain may seem insignificant. But perhaps a problem we face as a society is how we regard sportsmen almost as a different species, setting them on a pedestal and demanding they perform regardless of their mental and emotional well-being. At the end of the day, Cashman says, we’re all more alike than we think.
“To be able to treat players in a more human way, where their identity and value isn’t wrapped up in what happened on the pitch last week, or how well they’re getting on with their manager, I think helps them.
“Fundamentally, we’re all human beings, we all deal with the same problems in life, the same struggles, the same joys, and so it’s not a big division between being a football club’s chaplain and being a Christian minister. It’s all the same goal.”
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